Life today can be hectic and overwhelming to say the least. There is certainly a place in our day to be given to in depth study dedicated to our success in life. Sometimes, though, you just want to get right to the meat. This is the aim of this blog post. Continue reading The Wall
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One of My Top Secrets to Success!
What is the key component to your success that could be hindering your progress above all else? There are many things that can serve as obstacles on the road to success. Some are far more clear and obvious than others. Some are obvious, but so challenging they take great effort and time to overcome, while others take minor adjustments to clear the hurdle. Some challenges are most daunting of all, not because of their complexity or enormity, but because they are so elusive! Such is the target of this blog post today. Let’s take a look at what, in my opinion, is likely the number one detour on the highway to success for most people. Continue reading One of My Top Secrets to Success!
Mentoring with Jeff Grillo, “The Excuse Assassin”
Many choices exist today from which you can invite a professional to come encourage, motivate and inspire your staff and students. Events which include a dynamic speaker can help all who listen to become more and do more than they may have previously thought they could.
The trouble is when the speaker leaves, so does the feelings of excitement and hope. An extremely good speaker will touch people deeply and may have a lingering effect days later. This positive effect drops off rapidly as typically with the end of the event comes the end of the commitment on the part of the speaker. So what exactly did you get for your investment?
This is where you will find a tremendous difference when investing in an event with Jeff Grillo, “The Excuse Assassin.” Not only is Jeff a dynamic and powerful speaker with an extraordinary story of how he has faced and overcome many life challenges including blindness, two forms of malignant cancer, heart problems, financial collapse, chronic pain and more, but he also offers a year long commitment to measure and track your progress and the progress of your students, faculty or staff in twenty areas of attitude and performance. The data gleaned using iGoals9 helps Jeff to tailor his mentoring to address the specific challenges that will lay out a clear set of goals and a plan to achieve them. Ongoing mentoring happens on a closed Facebook group platform where each individual not only receives group mentoring but also has the opportunity to share and learn from their peers. Additional one on one mentorship is given as needed and determined by the Jeff Grillo Mentoring Team in order to ensure the progress of each mentee.
What are you waiting for? Contact the Jeff Grillo Mentoring Team now and learn more!
How to Take Control of Your Life
I have not conducted a formal study on the biggest challenges that our society faces today, but I think even a moderately observant person would agree that among the top issues is that of responsibility. I believe that the blame game has become an epidemic in our nation. One needs only to turn on the news on any given day and listen, I mean truly listen to what is being said. It seems everyone is blaming everyone else and everything else for the ills facing us today. Mothers of criminals blaming the police for their adult children being killed in a police chase. You have anti-gun people blaming gun manufacturers for violence. Republicans blame democrats and democrats blaming republicans for everything that is wrong in our nation. And the list goes on almost without end!
How often do you see this mindset creeping into your own neighborhood or circle of acquaintances? It is awful! Do you know why it is so awful? The answer may surprise you. It comes down to a matter of control. You see, if we as individuals engage in attitudes of personal responsibility then the control for change of the things we do not like or approve of lie with us. The keys of change are in our own hands and we can determine proper adjustments in our course that will lead to different outcomes, more positive outcomes. Conversely, if we do not walk in personal responsibility then we hand over control to someone else or some other power, authority or ruling body. When we give up the keys to change, we are stuck in a perpetual rut, a rut of our own making.
This is what happens when we want to lay claim to the responsibility when things go right only. It is easy to pat ourselves on the back when we succeed. It feels good to cue people in to the one responsible for all the obvious good in our life. Oh how we love to feed the monster of pride! When the outcomes of our own decisions are not the desired or intended outcomes we tend to run and hide and point our fingers as a societal norm. As long as we do this, we are essentially saying the control is over there; I’m helpless and a victim, there is nothing I can do. How does that feel? No wonder there is so much angst and tension in our nation today, we have collectively raised a generation of helpless, powerless victims who are angry and tired of being victims. The trouble is that everything they read, hear and listen to through the media pats them on the back and reinforces them in their unenviable position. Only when the message gets out that the fix is to stop blaming others, take responsibility and therefore take control over their lives and future and begin to make choices and decisions that will lead to better outcomes.
The power of choice and the power of a decision in the end is the most powerful tool we as individuals have in forging the life we say we desire. Who are you going to give the power to in your life? Great leaders are not great blame givers, they are great responsibility takers. Take the responsibility for your own life, make the best choices you can, follow through on those choices with appropriate action and reap the future you desire!
How to Change Bad Habits
Everyone at one time or another asks the question, “how can I be more successful?” It is a great question to ask, and it can take volumes of books to answer. The answers can be almost endless when you factor in all the different areas one may choose to direct their quest for success. Most adults are already on that quest to some degree. I will offer up one simple thing you can do to improve your odds of achieving success that you can implement right away and realize great improvement within a mere thirty days. Change the question you ask! The question should be, “how can I correct bad habits?”
You see your habits shape your future, for better or for worse. The things we do on a daily basis determine who we become and what we will achieve or not. Your daily routine is likely the culmination of habits you formed long ago and now you probably don’t even think about them because your life is on a sort of autopilot.
It may sound like an oversimplification to be honest with you, but it really is just this simple. It goes back to the most basic computer analogy I can think of. If you want to change your output, change the input!
Here’s what I mean, and I contend that this is one of the best lines I ever learned in my life and I learned it at about age 18. I was getting ready to enter my first year of college. I was a bit delusional in that I had dreams of being a musician. I had played keyboards in one capacity or another since I was 5. Let me clarify this up front. I did not consistently study and practice from age 5 on, I simply began lessons at that age and then as you might imagine only stuck with it a short period. On and off again, I came back to music and by my teen years I had the bright idea of being a professional musician. At any rate, I learned that upon arriving at college I would be required to perform certain classical pieces on the piano before the professors of the music department and other students waiting their turn. I had never played anything like this before. I sought out a highly recommended professor of music at a local college (not the one I would attend) and took private lessons from him. Dr. Henry Santos was his name. The piece I brought to him to get help with was Bach, Inventio #1. I was more or less able to play the song one hand at a time, but it was too complex to get it altogether. He sat me down and asked me to show him what I had. Almost immediately he stopped me and had some corrections to make. The problem he picked out right off the bat was that I was nowhere near holding my hands in the proper position. My wrists were angled downward and my palms relatively flat on the keyboard. He explained proper technique was to have my wrists angled upward and my fingers somewhat curled. This was the proper technique. I thought I was a witty young man and said, “practice makes perfect!” Dr. Santos was not amused! He retorted, “No, it doesn’t! Practice does not make perfect, but rather, PERFECT practice makes perfect!” His point was that if I was practicing wrong technique all I was doing was cementing bad habits into my mind and putting myself at a tremendous disadvantage. But, if I would take the time to practice using proper techniques that this would make all the difference.
I eventually corrected the bad habits by consciously focusing on the new habit I had to learn, not in the old way. I was able to play that song for a recital my first semester and my piano tutor at the college I attended was quite proud of my progress.
So, to answer the question of how to correct bad habits I would simply say to focus on right ones! It’s not so much that you are learning to correct a bad habit or to overcome the wrong way of doing things, but simply learning the right way. In fact, it’s best to take your focus off the bad habits as completely as you possibly can. Instead, in whatever the capacity you are wanting to change simply learn the right, or more beneficial habit and simply with repetition over time you will learn the new habit and automatically the old will be a thing of the past. How long can this take? I think to some degree it depends on exactly what we are talking about, but in general terms they say it takes about 28 days to establish a new habit. Perhaps a little more or less time depending on the nature of the habit and how long it has been engrained in your mind. But the bottom line is that it generally is not a terribly long process. Additionally, it is typically not too difficult if you are determined, focused and truly wanting to improve the area in which you are making the change.
My final word of advice on the matter is be careful not to replace one bad habit with another! Be certain that the thing you are trying to replace is truly the best possible technique! Remember Dr. Santos! Perfect practice makes perfect!
Stoke the Hope!
According to dictionary.com, the word hope means, “the feeling that what is wanted can be had, or events will turn out for the best.”
At the root of every journey is hope. We all have a starting point in our pursuit of success. This is naturally different for every person. For some, success is defined by position or power, for others it is a certain income or standard of living, and still for others it is simply having enough to not have to worry about the basics. Nonetheless, there is an idea or vision ascribed to that is based upon hope, or the belief that what is wanted can be had.
It is this belief that shapes our attitudes, determines our focus and as we progress towards the mark, fans the flames of enthusiasm as we get closer and closer.
It is critical as many famous leadership gurus have pointed out to dream and set goals. I’m certain you have even been taught or read somewhere that it is important to dream big! There is certainly an element of truth to this, but I will offer up a word of caution. I have found that if one dreams too big, too soon it can squash hope! Our march towards success should be incremental and as we enjoy success, we then can build upon previous milestones and reach even higher.
Here’s what I mean by dreaming too big too fast. I remember being a young man with very little in terms of material possession or accomplishment. I was fairly brand new to the quest for success. I was drawn to a certain marketing enterprise where the people who mentored me were much older and already pretty successful people. They had me hook, line and sinker on the idea of dreaming big. No dream was too big or off limits. So here I was a relative kid with nothing, dreaming of 6,000 square foot mansions, Ferraris and half-million dollar luxury yachts. Not bad I thought. After all, I do have good taste!
I’ll fast forward to the end of that particular story and tell you that I was a categorical failure in every sense of the word, at least as far as it was related to this particular business. Why? Was I not cut out for success? Was I genetically inferior and relegated to the lower rungs of society? No! I simply dreamed too big too fast and was blinded by it. I could clearly see the end goals, but couldn’t get past the present situation and make it happen.
Again, I’m not saying not to dream. We must, in fact dream and dream big, but be careful to do so progressively on the road toward success.
Once we have ourselves a big dream session and envision our ultimate end game, we then must work backwards to the point from which we start. Then, we need to forge a path with progressive attainable goals which, as we accomplish each one, we are propelled on to the next one.
We must always maintain a high level of hope, or belief that what we want that is just ahead of us can and will be had! Stoke the hope! We need to get so excited and full of enthusiasm over the goal around the next corner that our hope rises to the point that we are nearly exploding! In the back of our minds we understand that the achieving of this next goal is one more step on the path to the ultimate goals. It is this that I find keeps the flame of enthusiasm burning long term. You definitely don’t want to be a quick burn when it comes to chasing your dreams.
Now, go stoke the hope!
D.E.A.D. Principle (part 3)
In parts 1 & 2, you learned how desire and enthusiasm fit into the D.E.A.D. principle. Here in part 3, we will focus on attitude.
There have been volumes written on the topic of attitude and how it can make or break you. In fact, I personally have written two books that address our attitudes and their role in shaping our current environment in which we live as well as our future which we will soon enough inhabit. As a brief matter of shameless self-promotion, you can find those two books on my product page! Enough said.
In addition to my books, I will point you to a free teaching I did on the matter which resides on YouTube. To view this short video on “Attitude Lessons from Flight School” simply click this link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nZsOJphP3fE I will point out and warn you in advance that this was the first video I made on what was then my new iPad in an outdoor setting. Everything worked out just fine, except the audio quality could have been much better. Nonetheless, it is worth a few minutes of your time to learn a valuable lesson that I will teach here. Feel free to give it a “like” and leave a comment. By all means, help others and me by reposting at will!
Now that I have given you a full three sources of inspiration on the topic of attitude, I will give you a little something new for this post. Our attitudes can serve us well, or entrap us in an unwanted prison of sorts. For example, I grew up in New England and was surrounded by friends and family which shaped me into a bit of a sarcastic individual. That northern sarcasm is great if you are trying to get a laugh, but not so good if it sneaks into your professional life. We need to watch every word that proceeds from our mouth. Not only do we want to choose language which properly communicates our message, but also, we ought to watch our delivery.
If we allow challenges we face in life to get us down, or don’t cope well when the unexpected happens we can send an unintended message. That message can be that we are not serious professionals or that our concern is not in meeting the needs of our customers, but rather to meet our own needs.
Maintaining a positive attitude is paramount to success in any arena. Can you imagine having a surgeon about to perform surgery on you who had a negative attitude? Heaven no! As a consumer, I want everyone I deal with on a regular basis to be a positive individual. I’m talking about the person who takes my order at the drive through window, I’m talking about the clerk at the post office, I’m talking about the person who services our car. Positive attitude in business is equal to professional and satisfying rapport that makes me want to continue to do business with that person or company. I might overlook or excuse a poor attitude once because I understand everyone has an occasional bad day, but beyond that I am looking for a new place to do business.
Whether you are behind a desk, behind a counter, working the phones or speaking on stage before a room full of eager students, you must cultivate a winning, positive attitude. If you expect to go to the next level and improve your position in life, this is a key area to give serious attention. Don’t take your own word for it either! Ask those closest to you who would know you best. Find out what others really think of your presentation to others. l Encourage them to be completely honest. Prepare yourself! Hopefully you will be pleased or pleasantly surprised. But, be open to the very real possibility that you have room for improvement. If you have zero room for improvement you may need to give someone a call and sign up for a study of some sort as you would be quite the anomaly!
Desire leads to giving birth to our enthusiasm. Our attitude is cultivated from these two principles and will take us a long way. See you soon for the final look into the D.E.A.D. principle!